Trust, romantic bonds and confidence can be broken by infidelity in marriage. A lot of emotions can be experienced as you both try to work out your marriage. Surviving infidelity is however very possible. All you need is to restore confidence in each other. This will take time but with commitment and honest communication, both you can start to heal.
Bring an end to affair connections
Insecurity and uncertainty will be caused in your marriage if you still have contacts of the individual you cheated with. Building confidence won’t be easy if your husband will have to keep questioning your commitment. Do not contact that person if you want your marriage to work. Both you can begin to build each other’s confidence and restore your marriage once you have assured your husband that you don’t have feelings for that person anymore.
It is normal for a spouse to think why one cheated especially when the spouse was unfaithful. Even though discussing infidelity is not easy, your husband may be able to build confidence over time if you answer his questions. It may look like you have a lot to hide if you refuse to answer his questions and this will break his heart even more. Try to rebuild his trust and self-esteem.
Accept that you did a mistake. Your husband needs to know that you are accountable for your actions. That will restore his self-confidence. Know that he needs to see that remorseful face and that you are ready to commit to the relationship. Be genuine in your apologies and assure your husband that you know what he’s going through. He can start working through his emotions once he feels like his feelings are validated.
A partner can feel that he is not good enough, unloved and undesired and this leads to low self-esteem. After learning of your unfaithfulness, your husband might feel unappreciated, lonely and attractive. What you need to do to restore his confidence is to show your love by surprising with date nights, love notes and just showing him that you love him.
Look for a marriage counselor
Your emotional health can be affected when trying to restore your marriage and your husband’s confidence. Look for a marriage counselor who will guide you on what you need to do to deal with infidelity. The sessions can help understand the problem and offer tips on what both of you can do to boost confidence.